In a nutshell, AER is a process that gently and effectively enhances greatly our natural ability to release stored emotional pain so that we can experience lives with much greater peace and happiness, free of the influence of past pain and suffering.
AER is based upon the proven concept that we humans are all able to release our stored feelings. AER takes that normal human process and accelerates it. Time heals all wounds, and with AER, the amount of time needed to heal an emotional wound is usually minutes instead of days, weeks, months or years.
Regularly releasing pent-up feelings and emotions is necessary for our emotional and physical health and well-being. There are numerous studies which show that holding onto feelings such as anger, for example, results in increased stress, both emotional and physical. Those who let go of their stored painful feelings report a greater sense of clarity and tranquility:
- With AER, I didn’t have to figure out the reason, I just needed to be in touch with my feelings and let them go. That in itself is priceless. Since being introduced to AER, I can use it to handle whatever comes my way with clarity and am more in tune with my emotions. I am also happy to say that things are coming together and that my light is shining brighter each day.
- When I went to work on Monday following my AER session a couple of friends commented on the way I looked. They said I looked different; but they couldn’t put their finger on it. I excitedly told them about the AER session I had with you and they couldn’t believe it. They said I looked lighter and brighter somehow. I guess all those negative emotions can weigh you down.
- It was a shared journey through the pain of loss to relieved acceptance and acknowledgment that though my daughter died tragically, I can be at peace with the facts, the nostalgia, the love and the realization of who I am at this moment. I can now reflect with tenderness upon her life, the events of her passing and some imagined possibilities for her future without retreating either to numbness or emotional crisis.
While anyone who has released some painful memory or feeling can attest to the benefits of release, most people have not yet experienced this type of releasing. Instead, they have usually made use of the normal coping mechanisms to distract, stuff away or avoid those feelings which are uncomfortable.
The problem with only using coping mechanisms to handle our painful feelings is that we start to accumulate a large stockpile of unresolved issues. These are usually held in place by a sort of “emotional glue”. Using AER will help dissolve that glue, speeding the release of unresourceful thoughts, beliefs and feelings. As a result, these feelings from the past no longer interfere with or influence our lives. We gain the freedom to make choices that reflect our true desires, not compromises which result from past sadness, anger, pain or grief.
Why do people end up using coping mechanisms so often instead of releasing? The answer is quite simple, and yet rarely discussed: the normal human response to pain is to move away from it in some way – we distract ourselves by getting busy with something else, we sooth ourselves using medications and substances (including food) which make us feel temporarily better, or we avoid thinking or feeling as best we can. This normal response to pain keeps us temporarily safe, and yet it does not allow for the natural flow of the feeling through and out of us. As a result the feeling gets stuck inside us and keeps popping back into our awareness any time we allow it to surface or it is triggered by something that reminds us of it. Men are particularly susceptible to the tendency to hold emotions/feelings inside, and they suffer more heart attacks as a consequence.
How AER was developed
More than 7 years of research into a large number of stress reduction, awareness and emotional healing techniques, including participation in workshops and conferences, sessions with master practitioners, extensive study and discussion with learned healers from around the globe lead Robert Vibert to the discovery behind AER:
most stress reduction and healing modalities stop at the point of emotional relief, leaving in place unresolved traces of the stress and emotional wounds they are working to heal.
As a result, while people do feel better when they use many healing and stress reduction techniques, the underlying problems remain, and require regular interventions to maintain any sense of calmness. AER was designed from the beginning to provide as complete as possible Resolution of the issue at hand (usually stored painful feelings and associated thoughts and beliefs).
Most Stress Reduction techniques, for example, do a good job of reducing the amount of stress felt. What they do not do is eliminate the internal source of the stress response that keeps getting triggered. Robert’s research has found that most of the time, we get stressed because the unresolved emotional issues are being re-activated by external triggers.
Easy yet thorough
AER is an easy to follow and non-invasive process that guides you in your natural releasing of stress, trauma or emotional ‘stuff’. AER contains gentle yet firm reminders to be fully present in this releasing, thereby ensuring that Resolution is reached. It is not a band-aid or temporary fix, but designed to guide you deep into the real release of stress and healing of emotional wounds at the mental, physical and heart level.
AER is a fully associative method for stress reduction and emotional healing, which takes you deeply into the depths of your issues and guides you to resolution, after the initial stages of awareness and expression. After having released painful feelings with the aid of AER, you can look at past incidents without re-experiencing the negative emotions formerly associated with them. You’ll also find that unresourceful thoughts and beliefs diminish in strength and that real change is then possible.
Robert Vibert developed AER by studying numerous stress reduction and emotional healing processes, identifying their most powerful and functional components and integrating them into a simple yet effective system. AER draws upon the latest research into psychology, brain neurology, energy psychology and healing, whole body awareness, post-resolution insight and re-framing. See the diagram below for more on the systems that contributed to AER.
AER adheres to the soundest principles of emotional wellness, fully respecting the body-mind connection. It uses easily understood techniques to provide those who learn it the ability to continue to do stress release and healing work on their own – no dependency upon the facilitator is created.
People have found that releasing with the aid of AER produces the results they desire in a shorter time and a much more effective manner than relying on good intentions, hope and willpower. They also find that AER is a very empowering technique, which facilitates their journey to emotional wellness at their own pace.
More details on the theory behind AER can be found here.
I can honestly say Robert Vibert is one of the distressingly few people I’ve met in this field who is willing to ask the really hard questions, to take methods apart, make them PROVE they work, insist on understanding HOW they work and who is willing to face all the discomfort that kind of rigorous research implies.
So when Robert’s telling you something works (or not), you owe it to yourself to pay attention.
Dr. Symeon Rodger
Author of The 5 Pillars of Life: Reclaiming Your Mind, Body and Future
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What using the AER process has done for me
Recently my husband was in his hospital bed, after surgery for a blocked intestine. He had been feeling desperately ill all that day and was exhausted and discouraged. I ached for him. He was suffering so.
His doctors arrived, surgeon and resident. At first the surgeon appeared concerned as he came upon the nurse helping my husband on one side of the bed with me holding containers and swabs at the ready on the other side.
Then he said, “We’ve moved too quickly in removing the NG, (Nasal Gastric/stomach pump). Remember I did say we must go very slowly as the intestine has been traumatized by the surgery and needs more time to recover. We’ll put that NG back in.” My heart sank at these words as I knew how painful a procedure this was for my husband and how many times they would have to try to insert the tube. This was awful news.
Then the surgeon looked at Bill, turned on a smile and a chuckle, joined by the resident and said, “Don’t worry. He’s a tough guy. He’ll be fine.” I saw and heard this and thought, “My husband is in agony, gallantly enduring extreme discomfort and pain and they are making light of it.”
Resentment and anger flashed inside me momentarily in defence of my husband. The jocular tone and attempt to make light of my husband’s suffering, the lack of acknowledgment of his suffering, registered deeply within me.
Without hesitating I said, “This is a very precious man,” and I looked directly into their eyes. I saw the impact of my words and felt the power of my support for my husband. I feel the power strongly again as I write this today. Gratefully, I was detached from the overwhelming emotion of my concern for my husband and my position before two professionals who held the expertise that he desperately needed for recovery. I was able to think clearly, speak my feelings and convey my concern with confidence and effect.
I have been fortunate to have studied with mentors who guided me in self discovery and I am very grateful to them. However it was during my study with Robert Vibert that I learned to focus on my feelings, accept those feelings and use the AER process to honour and resolve them.
Before I learned to do this I would react with overwhelming emotion, my mind blank, unaware of my feelings, unable to think about or verbalize them. I would be tongue-tied and ineffective in situations where being able to express how I felt would have added insight, support or defence. Even though I conscientiously prepared for meetings I was too overcome, too afraid I would begin to speak and forget what I had prepared. When I did speak, it was without confidence. I felt that no one listened. I did not believe in myself.
I am a graduate of AER Facilitator training. I applied myself during these courses and AER has become an important part of my life. Not until I spoke to those doctors in that emotionally charged situation, did I realize that I am no longer overwhelmed by people in roles of authority.
I can recognize my feelings and speak powerfully for myself and those I care about. I have confidence that I can be myself fully, coolly and competently. I no longer get flustered, lose my voice or find myself overwhelmed by my emotions. I am at peace with them and able to function in a manner that satisfies me. It is amazing that someone like me who is past 70 years of age can still make such a dramatic change.
I highly recommend that others try AER.
Teacher and Researcher (retired)